Conversation is not a hockey game

[Terry Trimingham]

On Wed, 2 Dec 1998, Al Boss wrote:

> --speaking for myself, if a conversation makes me mad, I
> evaluate it and decide whether it's worth remaining in (and it usually
> isn't).

	I agree 100%.  Recent exchanges have tempted me not only to
unsubscribe to the lists I am on, but to drop out of sight as an SCN
volunteer.  It doesn't matter if the topic includes reference to me or
not, I don't want to be a part of it in any way.

> So what?  So this--if you're writing an e-mail or talking, it should be
> because you have something to say.  If your message isn't direct, it'll
> be perceived by some as weak and they'll tune it out.  If your message
> is insulting or combatative, it'll be perceived by some as a waste of
> their time and they'll tune it out.  Either way, you don't accomplish
> your task; the message isn't getting through.  

Once again, I agree.  The only way I have learned to survive some of the
exchanges coming into my mailbox has been to decide certain senders are
not worth reading, and just delete them without ever opening them up.

Thank you Al, once again you have summed it all up nicely.

Terry



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